TA TALKS BACK: MY WIFE IS LOST IN THE TWILIGHT

The Twilight obsession can be a good thing. I’ve read all the books to my husband twice. He really likes Alice. Also we went to the midnight opening of the movie. It was very romantic. When we got the movie, we held hands and watched it together.

Of course, he is not obsessed like I am. I think he shook his head when he realized I carry a small sivler volvo like Edward’s in my purse.

Speaking as an obsessed wife, Twilight captures that feeling we get when we first fell in love. That zap of electricity when our “Edward” first looked at us, kissed us, etc. All women want to be the object of someone’s desire. I recommend you let your wife be obsessed. Most likely it is bringing her back to the early days of your romance. Who knows, maybe you’ll get lucky:)

I’ve heard that from sevral other people I know. That’s funny!
Guys: Need to step up to the game. You may not sparkle in the sun or drink blood from animals but being more of a gentleman might score you a few points!

This is so precious! I absolutely adore this husband that he’d take the time to write this and submit it to TA! Of course I have no sympathy for him!!!

This is HALARIOUS!!! I’m so making my husband read this tonight because myself and a few other wives have the same obsession and they’ve started what they call the H.A.T. Club (Husbands Against Twilight Club) lol they get together often especially when the ladies get together because all we do is talk twilight, think twilight..basically live twilight!! Don’t worry Stephen you’re not alone!! but at least you’re making the effort and trust me it’s appreciated.

well, mrdudewhohaslosthiswife, i suggest showing her as much affection as posiible, but seriously how can you not see how amazing, awesome, and freakishly great twilight is? haha your almost as bad as robert(: juust kiding. good luck with your attempt.!

It will be ok. Most of us fell for the story. I can say I have never been happier with my new found obsession. Happy reading.

love it, love it, love it….i’m one of those wives and my husband is happy that I’m finally enjoying myself and losing myself in another “world” – though, i think sometimes he’s a jealous – maybe it’s the Rob Pattinson pictures posted around??? nawwww….

LMFAO….sounds like my husband

This is what my family says about me. I have been reading everything the books, the movies, I have even read about each actor and become interested in what they have done in the past as well as the interviews. I have throughly enjoyed learning about them all as actors and people. The Twilight saga is wonderful and the cast and characters are great.

I too am an obsessed Twilight wife who has read all the books multiple times and watched the movie many times (especially since I now have my own home copy!), but rather than complain, my husband got in on it. He too has read the books, and LOVED them. He actually got done New Moon while I was still re-reading Eclipse and totally got in my face about getting it done so that he could read it. Now we have great conversations about the books and things we read and hear about what is going on in the Twilight world. So my point is men can read and enjoy the books too! And he admits it willing as well so please boys don’t be afraid to enjoy them (and in case you’re wondering he is a VERY manly man!!).

My husband could have written that…..although I’ve seen the movie 5 times so far. I have even been reading everything I can find online on the sly at WORK. I am 32, married for 12 years and have 3 children and I am counting down (literally) the days until New Moon hits the theatres. My 12 year old daughter begged for the book Twilight for months before I finally caved in and got it for her. I was bored one day and opened it up……and I have been obsessed ever since.

OME!!! That would be my husband to an extent. He though is not patient enough to read the books. He has tolerated very well my own OCD with Robert Pattinson and Edward Cullen. He now just walks away shaking his head and sighs. I laugh even more when my 2yr old tells daddy to shh, she is watching Edward and Bella. I have thought about trying to get him hooked but I don’t want to share my one and only guilty pleasure.

i think this is sort of funny. I mean, i havent really heard the other side. Im majory obsessed with Twilight, but i admit that openly. I love it. My brother and da tell me allt he time im obsessed and even my friends. i just think its funny.
so this story as a little comical. lol

Until I got the the part about playing guitar, I could have sworn my husband wrote this! Every male in the world should take a page from these books and become more like Edward! Romantic, loving, thoughtful, loving you beyond words! Someone mentioned that “electric” feeling you get with first love, and that describes it exactly. The tingle when they walk into the room, anticipating each touch, each kiss, all the women I know that are “lost in the Twilight” saga agree that having that “electric” feeling back makes all the difference. So guys, start being your woman’s “Edward”!
I can guarantee you, you won’t be sorry!

“CarlisleRocks responded:

Until I got the the part about playing guitar, I could have sworn my husband wrote this!”

Funny, I was going to say the same thing…

this whole thing has been quite thought provoking for me as well.
i read fiction constantly in my youth. after i married and had several children i downsized my reading due to time pressure, and stuck to mostly self-help reading and educational, current events… though i know my husband continued with his pleasure reading, fiction included, lord of the rings, pilgrims progress the robe,and others, mostly inspirational.
i have seen the tendency of a mate not respecting their companions interests if it is not about them. maybe they are feeling neglected. justified or not, each couple can evaluate if that is an accurate view of the relationship. though a self absorbed mate might not see accurately.
i think the twilight series is the first fiction i have read as an adult! having more free time at this phase of my life, to read for fun rather than only for necessity, and having 4 adult daughters introduce me to the series has opened up an area of my mind that had long been neglected. finding the value of fiction, imagination, and what can be enjoyed, and inspired out of it. seeing real life less seriously. what i read reminded me a bit of what i was like before i allowed work and responsibility put excessive and unnecessary burdens on me due to an unbalanced lifestyle. it did not have to be that way, but without balance, some of us tend to get too serious. it reminded me of some aspects of my life that i had wanted, but let go. some thoughts were indirectly brought out of the story, started there and led to other areas of personal thought. some were directly from the story.
there is a time to judge potential time wasting pursuits. when i was completely absorbed with caring for babies, i had to focus on the priorities. the children are my greatest accomplishment, and my greatest hands on education. it was a challenge to live a balanced life, but with no regrets i will always be grateful for them and the experiences they led me to. for all of us, there will be various things that will try to dominate our thoughts and time. i would strongly express to not let those times of intensity that demand so much of us, to go on for too long. there is a scripture in the Bible, that i wish i could find for you, but unfortunately i can’t remember where it was, that says, paraphrased,
” the Lord desires you to live a balanced life.”
with all our various personality types and life experiences, and interests, the way we achieve balance, (which i bring up to show a need for recreation, imagination…) is not the same for everyone. and some personalities have tendencies to be more self-sacrificing, while others naturally pursue a balance in their lives. for the most part, allowing others the freedom to find their own way is the way to go. the exception would be for the interest of safety and health, physical and mental.

two of my three sons have read the first three books and thoroughly enjoyed them. once they got started there was no need to motivate them to finish. they too were absorbed. my husband made fun of it, not really knowing much about it. i have never had an interest in ghoulish stories, vampires, werewolves, so he thought this was pretty odd.
when the video came out and he finally saw it, he admitted it was not what he had imagined. his favorite parts start at the baseball scene through to the end.
he is more of a jacob type. reading about the character reminded me of him in a pleasant way, bringing back memories, to my husbands advantage. (especially after over 30 years of annoying me!)

as another TA member stated on facebook a couple days ago. . . “of all the things she could become addicted to, or obsessed with, a book series is pretty tame..” I think we can all relate.

i think guys are, sweetly, threatened by our obsession!
I am obsessed by everything twilight, im not even going to go into what my room looks like right now.
I enjoy the book, and because of wives,gfs,tweens, and some guys too, we get to see them transformed into movies because of these obsessions.
therefore thank you to everyone who loves it!!

I am 35 years old and never would have thought I’d love these books as much as I do. My 14 year old daughter read Twilight and New Moon long before the movie was even thought of and loved the books. Only 2 months ago I decide to read one of the books to see what the fuss was about. I could not put the book down! I’ve now read all the books twice and I look up updates about the movies on the net everyday! I feel quite embarrassed that I can be so obsessed with a piece of fiction. I wouldn’t tell my husband as he would think I’m crazy! Even my daughter is a bit put off by my obsession. I have to laugh though because I now realize I’m not the only adult mom out there transfixed by this beautiful love story!

Another wife who is lost here and fortunately I have a DH who understands and is at times very happy to see the ‘ld’ me back again. The last time I felt like this was when I was in my early 20′s and honestly, it’s helped my marriage. Some bored stressed stay at home mums get themselves hooked on more serious things, some illegal, as a means to escape the pressures of life…I chose books and a film and a pretty hefty fan ficion obsession. What’s come out of this? I’m finally starting the novel I said I would write back in my 20′s and I’m me again. The ‘me’ that my DH fell in love with.

Can’t complain about that.

I can relate to those obsessed with the Twilight saga. I hadn’t known about the story until I walked into Borders and saw the display of Twilight (this was when it first became popular). I picked up Twilight and began reading it. I sat there for an hour reading the book, finally I knew I had to finish it so I purchased the book. Two days later, I returned for New Moon and Eclipse. At that time, Breaking Dawn wasn’t released then. I now have the complete series and read it numerous times. Someone asked me, “what is it about the story that makes you want to repeatedly read it”? I think it’s the romance between Bella & Edward. The vampire part adds a little excitement. I’m beginning to read Eclipse again…for the ? time, I lost count. I’ve read other vampire books, however it’s not the same. When Stephenie wrote this story, it was truly one of a kind. In five to ten years when the Twilight craziness had died down, I will once again relive the story with my books.

i got into twilight after all the books had already been released, so i spent four ENTIRE days (with very little sleep) of our vacation reading twilight. my husband was okay with this because it meant he got to spend four entire days shooting zombies in call of duty four. however, when i was done we spent the second week of our vacation together (with me babbling about edward..haha)..

Stephen, don’t feel bad, this is me!!!! But my husband could give a s–t because he just doesn’t care about anything! I find this so endearing you care so much. Why don’t you read the books and see the movie. You might understand why she loves it so much. It’s mind blowing what this series has done to all of us. But in my situation, and not to scare you, because you are definetly not my husband,these stories have given me the strength to leave my abusive situation. I know there is an Edward out there for me!!!

I had to show this to my husband and he is now in the process of writing his response in his head. I had never in my entire life been into anything like I am with Twilight. My office is in our family room which happens to be the largest room in our house. Needless to say it is now the Twilight room. It is honestly EVERYWHERE. I quit counting how many times I read the books after 15 or so and now I listen to them constantly and repeatedly on my mp3 player. I never listen to anything else. All of my friends tease me even though I got them all hooked on it. I managed to see it 14 times at the theater before it came out on dvd and I have only missed two days in the week since its release. So happy that I can watch it whenever I want now. We TWILIGHTERS may be obsessive but like I always tell everyone…we could be doing worse things. We aren’t on drugs or robbing banks. My husband still loves me…he just laughs and shakes his head whenever I get excited about the silliest little thing. He is of course MY EDWARD.

This sounds exactly like my husband… except for the reading it or watching the movie… he refuses to do either because he cannot get over the fact that the vampires don’t turn to dust or a ball of flame in the sunlight and that wooden stakes don’t kill them… but otherwise this is my husband exactly (even playing guitar..lol)

I love this article, I read Twilight and New Moon on vacation, and rushed home to buy the last 2. My husband tells everyone “first we were married, then she started reading Twililght now I’m a single guy”..Cracks me up. He did go to see the movie with me and he tolerates the constant info I try to force on him…sometimes. hahaha

I belive in most of what everyone else has said. Our Husbands, other halfs, Boyfriends need to be more romantic, Attentive, Sensitive, Devotied to they way we feel and what makes us sad and react appropraitly. My lure was that he is so protective of her and wants to make her happy no matter what. He is very comapassionate and a gentalman no matter what. I think Men have lost a lot of that and we tend to take advantage of each other more now. I am 37 an love the saga and continue to re read them wishing not that I was a vampire but I wish I had someone that devoted to me in my life.

I like that he calls our online obsession: TWILIGHT TREASURE HUNT

Wow……. Its funny to see this from a diffrent point of view…. but men have their obsessions too! I mean twilight is not even comparable to a 6 hour marathon of NASCAR or watching The world series on TV….. when you could be watching vampires play baseball instead:)))))

My hubby is slowly reading the books and agreed and allowed me to name our first child after Alice and Rosalie. I personally think that guys just need to take more of an initiative to read this. Does it take him longer with the books then I do yeah it does but he still reads them and he saw the movie 3 times with me (hes got a crush on Alice) I guess maybe all guys are different

~Raelin

omg, this is excellent !

OMG…this is so true that my Husband tells my children that they will find me in my room having my Edward time….So it will be awhile before ………..She will be checking back into the real world…..I am so going to have him read this………..

My response is.. hahhahahaha (laugh) – lease tell your husbands, boyfriends, partners that someone else feels there pain. I am venturing into the unknown for them,[b] if I am not back soon, don’t worry, I probably got bored, or worse still obsessed.[/b]

hope our man get obsessed by how Edward Cullen love towards Bella.

Yes, the twilight books are amzing as we all know. i used to be like super ubsessed, like the wifey, but now its like cooled down. wat im saying is that u can’t be like overobsessed, and yes, its ok to read other books and search other stuff on the comp instead of edward cullen naked.

It is soooo fantastic to see many others like myself. I hae been to the cinemas to see the film 9 times ( my husband is only aware of 4) and now have my own copy and the total is now in the 20′s. I live in a court and now all the wives are also commited obsessed followers.We get together every week to talk about new moon ( what has been released on youtube,photos etc) and if stephanie writes a fifth book what it will be about …will the volturi come back …the grand final show down …will the cullens be the new royal family…jacob and renesmee etc..etc..etc.. I have a giant poster beside my bed 3 key chains tshirts 2 sets of the books ( my 16 year old and i often argue over them …we now have a set each)MY HUSBAND IS OVER IT..BUT I AM HAPPY!!!! I havent read a book since before my 16 year old was born….. I LOVE TWILIGHT ……FOREVER

YEAH! I’m not alone. My poor husband is lying on the couch listening to me giggle while I read this to him! LOL! I feel for him. Im 32 years old, completely obsessed with Twilight, know every detail of the books, movie, web sites, y homepage has Rob splshed acrossed it and I listen to the soundtrack in the car. Yeah, Im a bit obsessed. I have three young sons, the two oldest are autistic, so Twilight is my escape. The place I can go, shut out my reality, and get lost in Bellas world. Im forever thankful to Stephanie for her creativity and pray she finishes Midnight Sun.

But my husband, poor man, has to endure my squees of outright joy everytime I see Robs gorgeous face. He’s a very patient man, but he knows I love him.

I see everyone in defence of the books or themselves. I think it is important to see the side of our husbands as well. This is a very hypnotic story that definately takes you away. I read all 4 in 5 days. My house was a wreck and I actually lost 13lbs. doing nothing more that reading on the couch. (I call it the Twilight Diet). My dear sweet husband was so neglected and confused, so as I read I decided to read little sections of the book that reminded me of memories or conversations we had during our dating years. I did what I could to make him apart of my Twilight Diet and told him I didn’t want to see the movie with anyone but him. (of course I’ve seen it 15 times in the theatre.)

Well by making him involved, without reading, he became interested himself. So, since he hated it that the film’s “Bella’s Lullaby” was nothing like the description (that I read him) in the book, he wrote me a new one. He called it “Twilight to Dawn”.

So don’t be down on your husbands. Find ways to make them a part of your obsession. Don’t leave it up to them. After all you loved them first.

You can hear my song if you like at http://www.myspace.com/delorak72

Obviously you are not alone! Like all of the other women here I paid to see the movie at the theater 5 times, have read the books 2x and am on my 3rd round, have bought two copies of each book, the cd, the score, the piano composition, 3 posters, the dvd, and yes, the collector’s edition from amazon.com. Oh! and the contacts – I got those too! Am I obsessed? Yes. Why? Simple – romance, love, passion, danger…every bit of it is intoxicating. Bella lives as a middle age adult as a teenager – she worries about the house being clean and the dishes are done, laundry is running, and dinner is made. And then, magic happens. Twilight takes me out of the duldrums of adulthood. It sparks the imagination and, for me, dares me to be more.
My husband listened to the audio version of all 4 books so we can discuss various things that come through this website. He has somehow converted from Switzerland to Jacob which I think is funny.

I’m sure MY husband, feels this husband’s pain….

However, there have been certain BENEFITS to my obsession….and I’ll not say anything more about that, this is a “family” site. Lol.

I wonder if THIS husband considered those benefits, before he wrote this, or whether he needs to be a BETTER husband to his wife, and then maybe he will….

Food for thought, ladies.

first off, HAHAHAHA to alliscullen’s note above! i may have noticed some similar benefits…

my husband listened to twilight and new moon on audiobook and then he let me read aloud eclipse and breaking dawn to him. it was soooo fun. he actually liked it for a while (but man i couldn’t believe how much he hated jacob! wow!), but then saw that i wasn’t getting over how much i liked the series. he’s a little annoyed that i keep re-reading or re-listening to the series, and that i spend hours with online stuff (p.s. i just discovered fanfic–it’s sooo great! i love eowyn77′s work!).

anyway, i feel bad, but he’s been addicted to video games before, so i just see it as my equivalent.

i think the important thing is to not put all this above him–when he gets home, it’s time to be with him, not my computer or ipod. that’s helped a lot.

Just consider this: it’s the same way she feels during football season…

Stacy Lee said it perfectly…. I am an obsessed Twilight fan and I started reading the books in November 2008 and I keep re-reading the books. My husband asked me one day, why do you keep re-reading the same books, I don’t get it. And I really had to think about it. 1st – it’s a great story and Stephenie is a great writer, but 2nd and most importantly it brought me back to my memories of when my husband and I first met, how I felt when he picked me up, called me, had eyes for just me. The books also helped me to remember all of the great feelings I felt for my husband when I first fell in love with him and they helped me remember why I fell in love with him and how I felt when we first met. I even started a journal to write down all of the wonderful memories of when we first met so that I can go back and read them, kinda of my own story and a story for my kids to read one day.

I did finally convince my husband to read the books and he travels alot so I bought him the books on tape. Once he started listening to the books, he would come home at night and steal the books from me. Now you have to realize, my husband is a big Ebay seller and once he gets home from work, he is on the computer until he goes to bed. Once he started reading the books, everything else took a back seat and he fell in love with the books and the story as well. And.. the books have had the same effect on him as they did on me. We both have fallen back in love with each other, we are paying attention to each other more and it is a great thing.

So.. Stephen…don’t worry, you will surely benefit from your wife reading the books and I highly suggest you read the books as well and find out how your relationship will change for the better.

okay, to the twilightdietplan, and alicecullen, and lulu,
it seems the diet plan and the extra benefits for the hubby are a larger phenomenon than we may know.

Like the comment of the woman who said Twilight makes her feel again like she did in her 20′s, I have experienced that too. I’m 53, and thought I’d never feel that kind of passionate excitement again. My husband (61) has definitely enjoyed the benefits of my refreshed romantic feelings! He went to the movie with me (the first of the 3 times I went), and is now reading his way through the books. It’s so fun when he asks me questions and we get to talk about the stories. I just wish he’d hurry and finish–I’m so afraid of letting something slip and spoiling for him the suspense I had of reading them the first time w/o knowing what was coming. Men, if for no other reason read these books and take lessons from Edward. There’s something there to learn about how to treat the woman in your life!

I’m thrilled that the female gender enjoys the movie and books. I saw the movie and am happy that my wife can discuss it with others. I’ll be consumed in other free time activities, and she can have this one.

Lots of “maybe the husbands need to be more of a gentleman, romantic, attentive, etc.” But the issue here was your wifes obsession with this book series. My wife is obsessed with it too, and our life was romantic and attentive prior to. Now she sits around all day listening with the audio phones in her ears, her myspace and Facebook page are plastered with Edward pics. What an incredibly silly way to second place your man ladies. If something as miniscule as a fiction story can draw your attention away from whats important. Oh, and all these ladies talking about how it may “Benefit” their husbands in some way, is a lie. I wouldnt want someone dear to me fanatisizing about some book character or movie actor whilst in the throws of passion with me. I dont suppose you heard the part about “Oh, and He’s a Musician Too!” part, as if you werent, and every thing youve played on guitar was bushleagued. I say, let them have their Twilight, even until their lives are surrounded by nothing more than a book, and childish fantasy.

One might think that this Twighlight teeny bopper phenomenon is healthy but it has actually hurt our marriage. I am a 36 year old good looking and physically fit (six foot, blonde, blue eyes) husband and father of four with an appreciation of music, film, fine art, culture, and food. While I love sports, I am not your typical alpha male insensitive beer chugging couch potato. I have a very stable and relatively well paying engineering career and have been dabbling with writing on the side. My wife’s obsession has taken her away from the blessings that she has in life as she spends hours reading every night and scouring the web for evrything twighlight until 1 or 2 in the morning. When she awakens during the day, she is exhausted and irritable with me and the kids despite the fact that I make breafast every morning. She has lost interest in sex because of her late hours wasting away and it is a challenge to make love more than once a week. Marriage is not easy and I know I am not perfect but I strive for perfection and am a very involved father with my children. A little escapism is great but enough is enough. I am a film buff and enjoy indie films which serves as my escape but she sits there when we pick one up from Blockbuster and reads the Twighlight books during the movie. I think she needs help.

I just wish the dam movie is out soon so my wife does not need to spend nights and days reading everything about the new movie.

Wow I read every response in this read and finally there’s a voice(s) of reason at the end with Mastedon2 and losts comments. I’m also one of those husbands who is very attentive and spoil my wife. I’m sweet, funny, charming, smart, not into video games, don’t sit in front of the TV all day. Basically there’s nothing she does to complain about me. It’s been a year of reading fan-fictions now and I’m so jealous and sick of it that I want to burn every copy of those damn books. Thank God my wife isn’t as bad as some of you ladies on here saving Rob Pattison pictures on your computers, etc. You should be ashamed I’m sure she does plenty of looking but her response to me is that if I don’t know then it won’t hurt me. This is the most frustrating thing I think I’ve ever dealt with in 15 years with my wife and there’s not a g-damn thing I can do about it. I’m powerless and I don’t sparkle. Will all of you ladies please come back to earth? It’s not really that bad down here with the rest of us.

not that it equates at all but what about some men's obsession with porn and strip clubs and sports on tv. don't be mad because we've found something that we enjoy as well, u guys have been doing this to us for centuries and we've been expected to take it, so either read the books yourself and try to understand what she loves about it or shut up.

My wife has all your wives beat, she is obsessed with gay fanfiction with the characters, as 15 year old boys! Lol!!!